Sometimes people have a difficult time directly saying that they don't want sex.  NO MEANS NO, but sometimes people will say or do things that mean NO without actually saying NO.  This can be confusing to the other person.  Boys often don't understand that when a girl says "I don't feel like it," that means NO.  When there is the slightest doubt about whether a person is comfortable with your sexual advances, you must ask them what they are feeling and then respect their limits.  Otherwise, you are pressuring them to do something against their will, and you could be running the risk of committing rape.

"NO" Messages

"I don't feel like it."

"I'm not ready."

"I don't' know."

"I'm confused."

 "I don't know that I like you that much."

"I'm scared."

"I know we've done this before but I don't want to know."

"I don't want to go all the way."

"I only do it with guys I really care about; I don't know you well enough."

"I don't want to get pregnant."

"I don't want to do more than make out."

"Let's take our time."

 "Maybe."

"I don't want to get AIDS."

"I think I've had too much to drink."

"I don't feel good about this."

"I think I've had too much to drink."

"I don't feel good about this."

"I need to go home."

"It's getting late."

ACTIONS that Mean "NO"

Looking down

Cringing

Moving Away

Crying

Avoiding being alone with you

Reluctance to get into your car