I have the right to be in a safe, nonviolent home. I do not have to accept physical, emotional, or sexual abuse.

I have the right to make mistakes. I do not have to be told that I am inadequate.

I have the right to make my own decisions and to be respected for my intelligence. I have the right to pursue my own interests.

I have the right to focus on my needs. I do not have to participate in a relationship that does not encourage my well being.

I have the right to focus on my needs. I do not have to discuss the problems this person's behavior creates for me.

I have the right to believe that I have a good memory and can remember events accurately.

I have the right to change my own mind.

I have the right not to answer a question.

I have the right to care for myself. I do not have to feel guilty or responsible. I am not obligated to fulfill the needs of a significant other who was mistreated emotionally or physically by his/her parents, served time in jail or has a drug or drinking problem.

I have the right to have a significant other arrive on time. I do not have to accept excuses for behavior that is inexcusable.

I have the right to express how I feel. My feelings are important and deserve to be listened to.

I have the right to have trust agreements kept with me regarding my body, my emotions, and my child(ren).

I have the right to have a significant other who is sexually faithful.

I have the right to participate in the process of making rules that will effect my life.

I have the right to be proud of myself and my achievments.

I have the right to provide a healthy environment for myself and my children.

Kilgore,Nancy, Sourcebook for working with battered women, Volcano, CA 1992.