telling all

talking at an intimate level on the first meeting

falling in love with a new acquaintance

falling in love with anyone who reaches out

being overwhelmed by a person; preoccupied

being sexual for partner, not self

going against personal values or rights to please others

not noticing when someone else displays inappropriate boundaries

not noticing when someone invades your boundaries

accepting food, gifts, touch, sex, that you don't want

touching someone without asking

taking as much as you can get for the sake of getting

giving as much as you can give for the sake of giving

allowing someone to take as much as they can from you

letting others direct your life

letting others describe your reality

lettings others define you

believing others can anticipate your needs

expecting others to fill your needs automatically

falling apart so someone will take care of you

self abuse

sexual and physical abuse

food abuse

 fear of harm to the victim or the children or other family members

love, loyalty, guilt, fear of retaliation, fear of being alone

fear of not finding a way to make a living

belief that their children need a father in the home

belief that the abusing partner cannot survive without her-  the abusive partner may threaten to kill himself if she leaves